The Book E2 and My Experience With The Dear Abby Principle

Experiment #5 from the book E2 by Pam Grout

Theory: Your connection to the field provides accurate and unlimited guidance. 

Task:  You’ll spend 48 hours expecting a specific, concrete answer to a specific, concrete question.  It can be as simple as whether to adopt a new Siamese kitten or as complicated as whether or not to take a job offer.  Either way, give your inner guidance 48 hours to spell it out.

I read this chapter on Thursday January 30th and the timing when I read it was rather … synchronistic, as I’ll explain later on. 

Now, the theory behind the Dear Abby Principle – that we have a connection to the field which provides accurate and unlimited guidance – is not something that’s new to me, but rather something I’ve been conscious of for several years.  It most dominantly became apparent to me around 2008 when I had open heart surgery.  I learned through this experience that I absolutely most definitely have guidance that I can access 24/7 because it became essential that I tune into it to get through my fears.  See, I was someone who was very scared of needles at one point in my life, heck I would even feel faint at the thought of blood; yet, I was able to walk nearly fearlessly to the hospital the morning of my surgery because I was listening to the voice inside of me that said that everything is going to be ok, and not only will it be ok, wonderful things are going to come from this experience.  Well, one of the most wonderful things that came from that experience was just tuning into and becoming aware of this voice, this inner guidance, that could give me courage, and light up the darkness inside of me, just by listening to it. 

 My inner guidance had always been speaking to me before though, and it will always continue to.  One of the biggest challenges and one of the things that really prevents us from listening to it the most is that we’re conditioned to give our power away and to listen to external sources of authority over our own desires and our own wisdom, as if these external voices of authority know what’s best for us. 

Well … they don’t!  They never have and they never will. 

Even though, I’ve been aware of my own internal guidance and its significance for quite awhile, the importance of listening to it has become more and more clear to me within the last few years, and particularly within the last few months.  Also, I’ve realized that listening to my inner guidance is not somewhere that ‘I get to’ and that’s that, it’s rather something that I continually must choose to do in every new situation especially where there is contradictory information or unclear choices to make.  It definitely feels that it gets easier and easier with more conscious application and practice. 

After explaining all of that, I have to say that even though I really appreciate this chapter and principle described in E2, something in this task doesn’t sit 100% in alignment with me.  That is, there’s something that feels just a little bit ‘off’ about it, or perhaps it’s just that I feel that two extremely important elements involved in asking for guidance are left out.  I might reread it in another unit of time, and feel differently, but at this point in time I feel like one really important element that is left out involves the power of our own choices, decisions, and desires.  I feel like by asking the universe or the field of potentiality for an answer as to whether or not we should do something and then by accepting that answer as a complete truth, we are replacing one external authority figure for another.    Even though the field of potentiality is actually a part of us, in application the way this question is presented, I feel like it’s making it an external thing that should be listened to without question. 

I think it’s very important to understand the power of our own choice when it comes to any path to follow.  There are no right or wrong choices, any path we take will have value, so it is not necessary to give our power and responsibility away to the ‘field of potentiality’ in determining which direction to take.  We may ask for guidance but ultimately our path is our choice and our responsibility. 

Also, there is no clear motivation or desire that is being addressed in this ‘should I or should I not do this thing’ kind of question that is presented in this chapter.  Generally when we ask a question like this it is with the intention of achieving some kind of aim, whether it be a general or specific aim.  For example, a general desire may be wanting to feel more creative.  So a question I may ask is “If I want to feel more creative, what should I do?” An even more general question could be “How can I make my life better?”

The reason why desire and motivation are important factors to take into consideration is because if you present this kind of question to the ‘field of potentiality’ with no awareness of what you’re trying to achieve then you’re not only giving your power away as to what’s the best path to take, but you’re also asking the field to decide what you should want.  While the field of potentiality probably knows us a lot better than we know ourselves, it’s not its job to decide what we want, and if we understand that we are actually a part of it, and that it is not external to us, then all we have to do is ask ourselves what we want and we will hear the answers.  I feel that perhaps a more empowering way to frame a question like this to the field of potentiality if we are unclear about our desires is to ask something like “Please make clear to me my own desires!”  

The more clear we are on what we want and why we want it, the more empowered we are as human beings. 

This leads me to the second important element that I feel needs to be addressed.  The thing is that there are choices, and paths that are beyond our radar screen that show up to us and pop into our minds and appear in our reality when we ask for guidance.  Whether or not we decide to take these paths though is best determined not by the mere fact that they have shown up, but instead by how we FEEL about them.  Our EMOTIONS and our INTUITION are our 24/7 gauges as to how connected we are with out deepest desires and highest truth.  Sometimes we may ask for guidance and receive some kind of answer that feels like it is really not a good path for us, but the strongest indication as to whether it is or it is not is how we FEEL about it.  Our intuition always leads us where we genuinely want to go. 

If I were to ask a general question regarding which path to follow to the ‘field of potentiality’ I would ask “Is this choice in alignment with my deepest desires and highest truth?”  Then I would listen to my gut.  But, the thing about this question is that, while it’s perhaps useful in many instances, it is not even all that necessary because this question is essentially hard-wired into our gut and is answered through our intuition and emotions 24/7 without us even asking, all we need to do is listen and pay attention to how we feel.  It becomes more and more clear to read our intution when we are clear on what we want as well. 

As I mentioned above we can’t make a wrong decision, every choice we make will take us to a new place with its own value, so the choice really is always up to us where we want to go, and we need not be fearful of making the ‘wrong’ choice as if we will be judged by this field of potentiality if we don’t listen to it.  It does not judge, only we judge. 

Here is a video with Abraham-Hicks where they answer what God is and explain that we are not separate from God but rather we are God.  It is called Abraham on God.  Here is one excerpt from the video which articulates in other words what I’m trying to convey.  They explain here how our choices work in relation to God:

And the next question we want you to ask is “What will come next?” and we say whatever it is you choose.  And the next question we want you to ask is “Well will you not choose for me?” and the answer is, we are choosing with you, but we are not choosing for you, and when you are in vibrational alignment with that which is us the choices that we make together are those choices that we all intended when you made the decision to come forth into this physical body to begin with”  ~ Abraham

OK so if the best source of guidance is our own intuition does that mean we shouldn’t listen to anyone else or ask for guidance from anyone else? 

The answer to this is that once these foundational understandings are set in place, that there is no wrong path, that we are responsible for our choices and desires, and that our best source of guidance is our own emotions and intuition, then asking questions of other sources becomes much more useful.  With these foundational understandings established then when we ask we are not at the same time giving our power away to some external force as if someone or something knows better than us.  Instead we’re just receiving council from others, but the final choice is still ultimately our own.  That is, we can ask all the questions we want but we don’t have to listen to the answers if they don’t align with our own guidance and intuition.  And sometimes hearing someone give you guidance that you very much disagree with can give you more clarity on your own vision.   Still, the opposite happens too which is that you hear others speak in a way that so eloquently explains the way you feel that you just know what they’re saying is totally relevant and is good wisdom to abide by for whatever situation you’re in.  The way you can tell that this latter example is true is because something inside of you just lights up and if to say YES this is correct, and this thing that lights up is your intuition. 

Alright, so now that I’ve filled in what I perceive are the gaps in this theory so to speak, I’ll explain why reading this was synchronistic. 

The day before I read this chapter I had an imaginary meeting while I was driving home from work.  I was talking out loud to myself to a sisterhood of women that I am a part of.  Just to be clear this is a real life sisterhood, it doesn’t only exist in my imagination even though I was conversing with them in my imagination.  I was having a challenge and I asked them questions out loud and I ‘pictured’ and ‘felt’ their answers in my mind.  The really cool thing is that as I explained my whole situation I started to shift the way I was feeling by perceiving their kind input and loving receptivity.  Essentially I sorted out the challenge I was having and I felt totally better as a result of that conversation.  So I asked questions, I listened, and I felt the truth of what I heard in my gut. 

The reason this was so synchronistic is because not only was this a clear way for me to validate to myself the power of tuning into my own inner guidance, but also the concept of having an imaginary council meeting is discussed in this chapter.  Pam Grout talks about how Napolean Hill wrote in the book Think and Grow Rich, that he would have council meetings with Ralph Waldo Emerson, Thomas Paine, Thomas Edison, Charles Darwin, Abraham Lincoln, Luther Burbank, Henry Ford, Napoleon, and Andrew Carnegie every night before he went to bed.  In these meetings he could ask them questions and get advice.  How cool!  I was familiar with this before as I have read Think and Grow Rich, and I have heard others talk about these imaginary council meetings but I was particularly excited that I just practiced this and then read about it afterwards in the same day.  Fun!  So I had already completed the task before I read the chapter, and the 48 hour timeline then became irrelevant. 

Still, why not play some more!  I decided to have another imaginary council meeting with a different group of people this time.  A question that I’ve thought about often and I thought it would be fun to hear others weigh in on is “What is the purpose of life?”  Here’s how the scene played out:

My Imaginary council meeting with Sherlock (the character from the current TV series played by Benedict Cumberbatch), Yoda, Abraham, and a tree. 

I asked each of these people/characters the same question:

“What is the purpose of life?” 

We were in a big room at a round table and this is how each character responded:

Sherlock’s Answer: “Boring!”

He just said boring and then got up and paced the room as if he had an important case to solve that had nothing to do with my question.  Even though he didn’t answer my question directly his behaviour answered my question.  See, he was so aligned with a sense of purpose that even stopping to think about it was wasting his time from accomplishing what he was magnificently obsessed with.  He didn’t care about fulfilling some kind of purpose as if it was some kind of external thing set upon him or something he had to fulfill to please anybody else or anything else.  He just focused on the thing that brought him the most joy, and because of the obsessive focus motivated by the pleasure he derived from it he was able to reach levels of genius that most people don’t do because we’re too busy trying to please other people.  I loved this answer! 

Yoda’s Answer: “Know the answer you do!  Follow your passion you must”

When I saw Yoda telling me this he was not in the board room anymore, but instead he was in the marsh area where Luke Skywalker met him.  He exuded the energy of complete knowing, patience, wisdom, and total benevolence. 

Abraham-Hicks’ Answer:  “Follow your bliss, follow your bliss, follow your bliss, follow your bliss, follow your bliss, follow your bliss”

I didn’t see Esther Hicks when I received this answer, I just heard her voice.  It was as if to say, you’ve heard this a million times and the answer will not change, but we will always remind you whenever you ask. 

A Tree’s Answer: “To have patience on your journey, and to continue to grow.  Your perseverance will result in beautiful branches beyond your imaginination, just keep growing”

 πŸ™‚  The tree wasn’t actually in the board meeting, I just conversed with a big lovely tree in my back yard by looking at it and listening to it.  πŸ™‚ 

Sherlock’s second Answer: “To Live”

 Sherlock presented himself again, but this time he showed up in a coffee shop and just looked at me with a completely straight face with these two simple words.  These words happened to be loaded with meaning from the intention with which they were spoken. 

That was the end of the council meeting! 

Well, turns out I had a lot to say about all of this!  πŸ™‚ 

I’d love to hear from anyone else who has gone through this experiment and who has experienced different or similar results.  If you read this whole post please feel free to contribute to the dialogue in the comments below, whether you agree or disagree with any of the points mentioned.  If anyone feels like contributing to the council meeting by calling upon other characters to answer the question “What is the purpose of life?” that would be really awesome.

With appreciation for our amazing inner guidance and boundless imagination,





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